Are you constantly trying to prove your worth through external things?
Earning more money.
Building a great body.
Consuming knowledge.
Burning yourself out being the 'ideal man' on paper, while your relationship feels emptier than ever?
The truth is, if you don't like who you are — whether it’s your career, body, or mindset - and you try to get a woman to fill that gap, that will push her away.
Yes, women are attracted to men that have status…
that have their sh*t together,
that are doing something with their life,
that have resources and can acquire them.
And that can lead you to focus on the external, like making a lot of money, building a chiseled body and having a strong mindset.
BUT if you’re doing it for her, you’ll just end up frustrated.
Why? It’s because you’ve outsourced your worth.
So when you fail and don’t reach your goal or your progress isn’t validated enough, you become
reactive and throw it on your beloved and loved ones.
What you’re really saying is, “I’m only okay with me if you approve of me.”
Yes, women are drawn to men that have their life together — who are confident, have goals, take
care of themselves, and don’t rely on others to feel good about themselves.
Translation — women are attracted to men they respect, someone who’s confident in who he is,
not someone looking for her approval.
Women respect men that respect themselves.
If you don’t respect yourself, it’ll show in how you act, and you’ll constantly look for validation
from others.
But when you genuinely like who you are and are working towards your goals for yourself, not
just to get something from her, that’s when you’ll attract a healthy and meaningful relationship.
So, the most important relationship you need to work on is the one with yourself.
Do you like yourself?
Do you like what you do?
Do you like where you’re heading?
Do you respect yourself?
This is INNER-WORK.
The Alchemists of the Roundtable is an online brotherhood where men gather to do this work.
To build true confidence, self-respect and a clear direction in life.
It’s not about being perfect, but moving in the right direction.
And when you begin to respect yourself and keep improving, women will notice.
They'll be more attracted to you because they’ll see that you don’t need them to feel good about
yourself — you already have that self-respect.
It’s time to stop chasing validation and start building a relationship with YOU.
And realize your true worth.
How I went from outsourcing my power to re-sourcing my power:
Hi, my name is Andre but you can call me dre.
I was raised in a highly critical family where everything I did was never good enough.
No matter what I did, there was always a better way and I was told other kids were doing it better.
And so, I began to believe I wasn’t smart enough and started to avoid responsibilities.
I did the bare minimum, distracted myself with video games and at school, I checked out and got high. My grades suffered, further reinforcing the belief I was stupid.
On top of that, I didn’t think I was good-looking either. As an Asian kid in a mostly white school, I was made fun of for my looks.
Even when girls would show interest in me, I thought it was some kind of joke because of my lack of self-worth and self-love.
It wasn’t until post-secondary school that I finally decided to try at life…
I got honors and I started working out and building my body.
But even then, I was super critical of myself because everything I did was for external validation.
My grades to prove I was smart.
My body to attract women and get respect from men without having to do or say anything.
Even my first car, a BMW, was just another attempt to look good and get attention.
I tried it all - fresh grooming, designer clothes, and luxury items, but it didn’t get me anywhere real.
I even had this belief that women wanted money - something I learned from my mom.
I thought I was only worthy if I had money, so I flashed it around, paid for stupid stuff, and sank deeper into debt.
It took a long time, but I eventually realized that all of this - the money, the body, the knowledge I tried to accumulate was just me chasing approval from people to tell me I was good enough.
I wasn’t happy.
Instead, I was anxious, depressed, and lost myself in alcohol, drugs, video games, and porn because I felt so disconnected and lonely.
On the outside, people thought I had it all together. I looked confident, but inside, I was falling apart, and that misalignment held me back in every area of my life.
It was not until my girlfriend left and I lost my job that I started to look at myself in the mirror.
I started my personal development journey and for the first time in my life, I felt hope.
I realized I could create a good life for myself, and I started asking what my values and passions were. I didn’t
know at first, but I began to figure it out by hearing myself speak and connecting with others on
the same path.
The more I dug into myself, the more I started liking myself and needing less approval from
others.
And the deeper I went, the stronger I became.
The old story I told myself — that I wasn’t good enough or smart enough — started to lose its grip
on me.
I started to become more authentic, purposeful, and happy.
I stopped chasing women and instead, they started being attracted to me.
Now, I’ve rediscovered my true worth as a man and living my unique life journey on my own terms.
By doing so, I attract people who resonate with the real me.
I started living my purpose supporting men in building a loving relationship with themselves first.
I attracted a conscious, co-creating and intimate relationship that was once a dream. Our relationship began to strengthen through our common purpose to help other couples break unhealthy patterns of conflict, trauma, and triggers.
I’ve gone from outsourcing my power, always seeking approval, to re-sourcing my power and accepting myself.
The more I accept and love who I am, the more love I can freely give to others without needing anything, and that’s been the biggest transformation for me.
This is why I created the Alchemists of the Roundtable, an online brotherhood for men who are committed to doing their inner-work so they can liberate themselves from within.
To become self-led leaders who embody true confidence, self-respect and have a clear direction in life.
Why do men trust me for this?
I have 40+ years of life experience and each day I strive to embody what I share.
Along my life’s journey, I became certified as a:
Transformational Life Coach
Positive Intelligence Coach
Transformational Men’s Work Facilitator
Evolved NLP Practitioner
Quantum Time Release Practitioner
And currently working towards becoming a certified Non-Violent Communication Trainer
This training not only supports me in liberating myself from outsourcing my power, I have also liberated other men to begin re-sourcing their authenticity, purpose, and true self-worth to attract real relationships and a lifestyle that is authentic to who they are.
Here are their words:
Why you won’t find a brotherhood like the Alchemists of the Roundtable anywhere else!
Unlike other solutions out there, we don’t use shame-based motivation and give you temporary tricks that keep it superficial.
It’s because those strategies stop working the moment your old patterns are triggered by those who you want approval from, reverting you back to your old self in no time.
Instead, we embrace inner-work by leveraging the exponential power of group Shadow-Work where more of your authentic self is revealed and integrated.
Friendship, support, and accountability with like-minded men on a similar journey are natural gifts along the way.
Who is the Alchemists of the Roundtable for?
Our brotherhood is not for everyone.
It’s not for men who:
Are looking for quick fixes.
Want to improve their life alone.
Are unwilling to get uncomfortable.
Aren’t ready to take ownership for their lives.
Prefer to keep things “safe” and on the “surface”.
Are stuck in perpetual victimhood around their circumstances.
This is for men who are ready to take ownership of their lives and relationships.
Specifically, it’s for men who:
Are ready to realize their true worth and power as authentic Liberated Men.
Have “outgrown” many of their existing friendships and communities, and desire a brotherhood of other men dedicated to a life of full expression.
Are not afraid to “see their shadows” and integrate them back into wholeness.
Have “lone-wolfed” it for so long, and now feel ready to commit to a life of growth, healing, and evolution in the presence of their fellow brothers.
Are ready to “get real”, shift long-persisting patterns, and discover their purpose beyond the wounds, triggers and limitations that have held them back.
Have experienced the “sting” of personal relationships/ marriage and aspire to evolve into something more rich, expansive and life-giving.
Are “in the trenches” of relationships, fatherhood, and growing a business; and who desire to bring greater power, freedom, and peace to all areas of their life.
If you feel like you belong to the second group, I invite you to submit your application to join us:
What exactly is the Alchemists of the Roundtable
and how does it help?
The Alchemists of the Roundtable is an online brotherhood that connects every Wednesday at 7pm MST / 9pm EST for 90-minutes.
This space is called the Inner Table, in reference to our inner-work around the table.
Every month, we cycle between these 3 recurring life themes:
1. Alchemy Intimacy (Sexuality, Love, Relationships, etc.)
2. Alchemy Livelihood (Business, Career, Money, etc.)
3. Alchemy Kingdom (Meaning, Family, Community, etc.)
We approach the monthly themes through 4 unique practices that all contribute towards a “transformational arc” that accelerates the healings, breakthroughs, and positive physical manifestations in that area.
They are:
Week 1: Alchemy Brotherhood Session - To set the stage for life-changing shifts in the month to come.
Week 2: Alchemy Shadow-Work - A deep journeying experience to reveal some of the most limiting patterns, beliefs and experiences that have been holding you back.
Week 3: Alchemy Edge-Work - An inspiring and invigorating journey to the edges of what is possible for you; while activating new potencies, capacities and availabilities to claim them.
Week 4: Alchemy Breath-Work - A transmutational master-work to turn limitation into expansion; and shadow into virtue.
Between sessions, you’re encouraged to check-in daily through our Discord Community to stay connected to the brotherhood, be witnessed in your realizations and experiences, and keep the “fires of transformation” burning.
And to schedule your monthly private 1:1 session with me to realign yourself on the path.
What do I get access to inside the Alchemists of the Roundtable?
Once you are inside, you will get access to:
dre, the Alchemist - who will facilitate the weekly calls and support you via monthly 1:1 sessions.
Weekly Inner Table calls to engage in-depth transformational monthly themes and weekly protocols.
Private WhatsApp community to stay connected with the brotherhood.
All previous session recordings.
You will also get bonus access to:
Guest expert sessions.
Monthly in-person meetups (if you’re in the area).
Events and offerings at member-based pricing.
The Alchemists of the Roundtable is not a Prison
The Alchemists of the Roundtable is a brotherhood. Not a prison.
If you feel you’re not ready to begin your journey into a Liberated Man or aren't a great fit, you can leave anytime.
This goes both ways. If I feel you aren’t a great fit for the brotherhood, I’ll politely remove you.
Are there any guarantees and promises?
No guarantees, big promises or refunds.
Transformation is a journey, not a destination.
I’ve done this long enough to know when you do the work, it works.
By looking back 3 months, 6 months or a year from now you’ll witness profound changes in yourself:
You’ll stop looking for approval.
You’ll learn to love and respect yourself &
You’ll start leading your life for yourself.
On your journey to become a Liberated Man.
More Benefits:
Connection through Conscious Communication Level 1 Course ($1500 value):
This 6-week course will give you the tools to navigate your triggers in relationships and find joy in meeting each other’s needs at less cost.
The Alchemists of the Roundtable Community:
It’s the place where lone wolves come together, find a sense of brotherhood and join a community of self-led men driven by soul-led work. Get daily messaging, support and camaraderie. And whenever you feel stuck…share in the group and together we’ll get you unstuck. We’ll also celebrate our wins and support each other when challenges arise.
Reduced Rate for 1:1 Private Coaching ($250 per hour value):
As a member, you'll benefit from weekly calls, workshops, and round-the-clock community access. Additionally, you have the option to schedule private coaching sessions at a reduced rate of $150 per hour, should you desire to accelerate your transformational journey.
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